Stories, insights, and hard-earned wisdom from the AuDHD human experience. I write about autism, ADHD, resilience, relationships, grief, healing, and the everyday challenge of being human. Part personal reflection, part practical wisdom, and part ongoing experiment, my work helps people feel less alone while discovering what becomes possible when they stop trying to be someone else.
Notes From the Thick of It (Aug 6, 2026)
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I call this Notes From the Thick of It because I’m writing from inside real life, not from a polished finish line. These are reflections from the messy middle of AuDHD and chronic Illness, where overwhelm, grief, humor, healing, and small flashes of clarity all show up together. If you like what you read, please share it. Meanwhile, in My BrainSome days my brain works like a laser, other days it works like a drunk monkey trying to find its own butt. Unmasking Isn’t Freedom Until It Feels SafeThe decision to unmask isn't as simple as raising a fist of defiance against the status quo. The mask was built for survival. Setting it down requires more than courage. It has to feel safe. Unmasking may lead to rejection, greater misunderstanding, or unmet needs; so it can feel more like social suicide than liberation. That is why strong self-advocacy skills are such an important part of unmasking. Being your true self matters, but so does knowing how to communicate your needs, protect your boundaries, and recognize where it is safe to be fully seen. I can help with this. From Survival to Self-Trust with Heather-Ann FerriWhat if the one place you felt safest as a child was a stage? For Heather-Ann Ferri, performing became a refuge from what was happening behind closed doors. But when the applause faded, the pain was still waiting. In this deeply personal conversation, we explore trauma, people-pleasing, boundaries, grief, and what it really takes to reclaim your voice after years spent surviving. Heather-Ann’s story is a powerful reminder that your past may shape you, but it doesn’t have to write your ending. 🌿 A new review of Agatha’s Garden 🌿I picked up Agatha's Garden hoping for a good story. I wasn't expecting it to affect me the way it did. The writing is incredibly descriptive without feeling overdone. It was one of those books where I could picture everything so clearly that I forgot I was reading and just settled into the story. I laughed. I cried. More than once, I caught myself putting the book down just to think about something I'd read. Those are always my favorite kinds of books. What I loved most is that it didn't just tell a story. It quietly invited me to look at my own life a little differently. It reminded me how easy it is to get caught up in everything that's happening around us and forget to slow down and notice what's right in front of us. I think we could all use that reminder every now and then. By the time I finished the last page, I felt lighter. Refreshed. A little more grounded than when I started. And isn't that what we hope for when we pick up a really good book? Not just to escape for a little while, but to come back with a fresh perspective. Thank you for writing this story. I'm really glad I found it. — E. Diaz Thanks for being you, |
Brian R. King MSW
Stories, insights, and hard-earned wisdom from the AuDHD human experience. I write about autism, ADHD, resilience, relationships, grief, healing, and the everyday challenge of being human. Part personal reflection, part practical wisdom, and part ongoing experiment, my work helps people feel less alone while discovering what becomes possible when they stop trying to be someone else.
I call this Notes From the Thick of It because I’m writing from inside real life, not from a polished finish line. These are reflections from the messy middle of AuDHD and chronic Illness, where overwhelm, grief, humor, healing, and small flashes of clarity all show up together. If you like what you read, please share it. Meanwhile, in My Brain Life with AuDHD lends itself to latching on to a lot of unhelpful ideas about our own worth, how relationships work, and more. Then the day comes when...
I call this Notes From the Thick of It because I’m writing from inside real life, not from a polished finish line. These are reflections from the messy middle of AuDHD and chronic Illness, where overwhelm, grief, humor, healing, and small flashes of clarity all show up together. If you like what you read, please share it. Meanwhile, in My Brain Unmasking isn’t safe to do in every situation. There are times when masking makes sense because stripping naked in front of others isn’t always safe....
I call this Notes From the Thick of It because I’m writing from inside real life, not from a polished finish line. These are reflections from the messy middle of AuDHD and chronic Illness, where overwhelm, grief, humor, healing, and small flashes of clarity all show up together. If you like what you read, please share it. Meanwhile, in My Brain We don't have cookie cutter brains. Accommodating one person's ADHD doesn't mean the problem is solved for all of us. To suggest otherwise is...