Stories, insights, and hard-earned wisdom from the AuDHD human experience. I write about autism, ADHD, resilience, relationships, grief, healing, and the everyday challenge of being human. Part personal reflection, part practical wisdom, and part ongoing experiment, my work helps people feel less alone while discovering what becomes possible when they stop trying to be someone else.
Notes From the Thick of It (Sept 17, 2026)
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I call this Notes From the Thick of It because I’m writing from inside real life, not from a polished finish line. These are reflections from the messy middle of AuDHD and chronic Illness, where overwhelm, grief, humor, healing, and small flashes of clarity all show up together. If you like what you read, please share it. Meanwhile, in My BrainLife with AuDHD lends itself to latching on to a lot of unhelpful ideas about our own worth, how relationships work, and more. Then the day comes when you realize this, along with the problems it’s causing you. That’s when you can start swapping those ideas out for something more useful. Click to learn how I can help with this. One reason ADHD is diagnosed late in life...One reason ADHD is diagnosed late in life isn't because we suddenly reach the boss level of adulthood and fail. It's because we experience greater demands, decreased self-care or fewer supports (usually a combo) to the point our executive functions start locking up and the mask falls off. What may have seemed like a good fit between us and the world starts feeling like trying to squeeze into the swim suit after a long winter. It doesn't fit and if we try to force it something is going to burst. We can't adult less - unfortunately. We need better tools, supports and an introduction to grace and self-compassion before burying ourselves in a monologue for our relentless inner critic. A good first step is to learn to treat the struggle as information instead of a character flaw. Ask: What demand increased? What support disappeared? What self-care do I need? That answer is often the beginning of the way back, or at least a way forward. What If You Had to Rebuild the Person You Used to Be? with KneetWhat happens when you spend so long surviving that you start losing touch with who you are? In my latest conversation, I sit down with independent artist and advocate Kneet to talk about identity, abuse, creativity, and the long, imperfect process of finding your way back to yourself. Kneet shares how growing up between cultures shaped her identity, how music became a way to express what words couldn't, and how years of abuse and isolation slowly disconnected her from parts of herself she once knew. What struck me most was that her story isn't about pretending the hard stuff is behind her. It's about choosing, day by day, to reclaim her voice, stay connected to her values, create, and make room for joy even when life remains uncertain. If you've ever looked at your life and wondered, "How did I get so far away from myself?" I think you'll find something meaningful in this conversation. Sometimes finding your voice isn't about becoming someone new. It's about remembering who you were before the world convinced you to forget. 🌿 Review of Agatha’s Garden 🌿Have you purchased your copy? I'd love to hear your feedback. Thanks for being you, |
Brian R. King MSW
Stories, insights, and hard-earned wisdom from the AuDHD human experience. I write about autism, ADHD, resilience, relationships, grief, healing, and the everyday challenge of being human. Part personal reflection, part practical wisdom, and part ongoing experiment, my work helps people feel less alone while discovering what becomes possible when they stop trying to be someone else.
I call this Notes From the Thick of It because I’m writing from inside real life, not from a polished finish line. These are reflections from the messy middle of AuDHD and chronic Illness, where overwhelm, grief, humor, healing, and small flashes of clarity all show up together. If you like what you read, please share it. Meanwhile, in My Brain Unmasking isn’t safe to do in every situation. There are times when masking makes sense because stripping naked in front of others isn’t always safe....
I call this Notes From the Thick of It because I’m writing from inside real life, not from a polished finish line. These are reflections from the messy middle of AuDHD and chronic Illness, where overwhelm, grief, humor, healing, and small flashes of clarity all show up together. If you like what you read, please share it. Meanwhile, in My Brain We don't have cookie cutter brains. Accommodating one person's ADHD doesn't mean the problem is solved for all of us. To suggest otherwise is...
I call this Notes From the Thick of It because I’m writing from inside real life, not from a polished finish line. These are reflections from the messy middle of AuDHD and chronic Illness, where overwhelm, grief, humor, healing, and small flashes of clarity all show up together. If you like what you read, please share it. Meanwhile, in My Brain Acceptance isn’t the same as submission. The School System Gave Up on My Father My father spent much of his life believing he wasn’t very smart....